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I met a “recent” friend for a drink the other day.
While we were talking about our future plans, he mentionned the fact of me having kids, to which I answered I did not want any. And of course, he replied “you say that now, but you will change your mind”, and added that several female friends of him used to say they didnt want kids, and have them now.
So, once again, I had to explain, that, no, I will NOT change my mind about having children of my own.
Here are the reasons why :
- I think you need to be financially stable to have kids
, and this is not my case. I want to create my own business, which requires money, and I want to use the extra money I have on travels, by example. Not on kids.
People usually reacts to this saying that, in France, the State financially helps quite a lot (the State gives monthly allowances to parents, allowances to go back to school every September, etc etc), but i think that people should NOT rely on their government to raise their child! Your children is your responsability! I don’t see why my taxes should pay for your kid’s education or day care. There are other ways the state could use the money it gathers from its citizens!
- I think some people are made to be parents, and I’m not one of them.
Don’t get me wrong : I like children (well, the well-behaved ones, not the spoiled brats I sometimes encounter) and if i have to look after yours for a day, he/she will be well taken care of. I love spending time with kids - but just once in a while. I love kids, but not 24/7. I prefer having quality time with my niece rather than having my own crying baby every day.
- I have health issues,
the major one being lupus. Right now it is stable, but the thing with lupus is that it can get serious any day, or never. What if I have children, and when they’re still little, my lupus becomes real bad, and I die? I don’t want to leave orphans behind me.
- I think ecology and fighting for our planet are essential.
And what is the most polluting thing on earth? Humans. I don’t want to produce another human being which will contribute to trashing our planet.
- Talking about the planet and environnement - there are more than enough human beings on earth!
Overpopulation is a real
problem. If the world’s population carries on growing fast, soon we won’t have enough ressources for everyone. Overpopulation also plays a role on unenployment (I know what it feels like to apply for a job where there are also 150+ other applicants!), and the price of housing.
That’s also why I think that more people should adopt instead of having their own children - especially the ones using surrogate mothers.
- I don’t buy the “Life is worth living" saying
… Life is not easy, life is not a breeze. For most people, it is just plain hard. You have to spend years at school, work your ass off to pay for your studies, fight to get a job, work your ass off -again- for years to pay off your student debts, and loans if you simply want to become a home-owner; you’re never sure of what tomorrow will brings. People are mean with others, relationships are difficult, and some unexplainable sh*t happens to you… Yes, there are also good times, spent with friends; holidays, reading a good book, enjoying movies or a kick-ass TV show. But this is barely 5% of your life. This is not
enough to put of with the 95% of B.S. you have to deal with the rest of your life.Call me a pessimist - I think I’m rather a realist.
- I think a relationship with your loved one is hard work
. Even if love is strong between two persons, after a while, it’s not easy. And kids only make things harder in an every day routine. I’d rather not put my relationship at risk by having kids and protect my coupleinstead.
-I don’t need children to fulfill my life. I just don’t. I really want to travel more, discover new things, and open my own business in order to become my own boss. That would be the best thing ever. I like having friends around, going out to exhibitions, to the movies a lot, read, in order to broaden my horizon. I take care of my pets (currently, one dog and a cat, and hopefully more one day). That’s all I need. If you need to have kids in order to not be alone, to feel needed, complete, loved or any other reason - you’re wrong. You don’t create another human being to fight whjat you’re scared of. This is being selfish.
Just bought this for 1€ at a local yard sale… Wanna play?
“One Day" book review
“One Day" is a best-seller by David Nicholls, published a few years ago. Every magazine praised it and it was even made into a movie starring Anne Hathaway. I never felt the need to read it, because it seemed like a soppy love-story to me.
Last week, I was at my local thrift-store where the ‘bargain of the day' was 5 book for 1€. I found 4 interesting books, and I grabbed a copy of One Day to make the 5 items.
I like the format of the book : telling the story of two persons, one day a year, spread on twenty years. Good/innovative idea.
But that’s pretty much all I liked about it. This book is just so dull. You read and keep reading, waiting to discover a sentence that will move you, and it never happens. I was eager to reach the end in order to discover how it might break my heart/be amazing, but the ending was also very disappointing.
The two characters, Emma and Dexter, are not even likeable. Emma is just ‘allright’, and Dexter is a jerk. You can see their relationship, as well as their relationships with other people, grow old and sometimes fade away, but it’s never touching or moving.
Some paragraphs are just way too long and describe stuff nobody cares about.
I really don’t understand how this book was seen as ‘the best love-story ever’ or a ‘brilliant' novel. I would have rather read a Sophie Kinsella book instead.
Rating : 2/10
So this -an advent calendar FOR CATS- really exists! I found it at my local supermarket. Basically, it’s only catfood tins, one a day + 1 surprise (a toy, I guess).
Thing is, I was seriously considering buying it since it would be cheaper to buy this than several box of catfood tins.
MY LIFE IS EXCITING I KNOW
I’ve been working on several boring stuff for the past few days and it’s driving me insane.
Chrisitine Taubira, Femme de l’année / Woman of the Year !!
La première neige de l’année, c’est pas de la rigolade!
First snow of the year is no joke around here
I loooove pop-art. And super-heros. So when I saw this watch combining both worlds, I couldn’t resist! Especially since it was on sales at only 5€!
Bargain of the month!